Blog 3 Words Can Hurt Us

It is important that we all prepare ourselves to recognize words that bully before we hear them addressed to us or others in order to practice safety.  Negative words and actions are used by bullies that can hurt mentally, emotionally and/or physically: they BLAME; they JUDGE; they DOMINATE and CONTROL.

We believe that bullies are people behaving as predators who want to diminish or take life away from their prey.  They look for people they think are weak victims to feed their own hunger based in inadequacies and lack in human connections such as love and empathy.

Our mission is to not let bullies scare us into submission and low self esteem. We won’t let them scare us. We are strong. We are not victims nor are we prey for other people.  We are all in this life together, and we stand united in our effort to end bullying.

Hudsen will define the words we will want to know and discuss. Let her begin:

The Xerox  Intermediate Dictionary defines a bully as a person who  tries to frighten those smaller or weaker than himself.

Blame: To accuse of being responsible for a fault or error.

We will continue defining these words with our next blog.  Let us live and not die.

Blog #2 Watch Words

Hello World! Since our last blog, we have researched words that we can use as reminders to modify our own aggressive and/or violent behavior toward others or recognize behavior that causes our own mental, emotional or physical discomfort.

We will begin by borrowing the following three words from CNVC that cover most of these negative behaviors and can form a shorthand or watch for our words that impede peaceful communication and coexistence: words that state or allude to BLAME, JUDGEMENT and DOMINATION.

While we investigate the topic of bullying, we are going to find practical ways to begin immediately standing up for human rights-our own and others- without having to join a particular program or learning one particular method. We will attempt to do the background work and glean the major points of behavior that do not require our readers to do laborious reading or lengthy study time. At the same time, we will document the sources that we use so the option is always available to do additional reading and comparisons if desired.

We hope that readers become intrigued and invested in actively practicing and  promoting peaceful communication enough to want to get additional information to prove or refute the ideas advanced. It is our hope that our suggestions are tried and we heartily encourage feedback and new ideas that we can use. When you submit, let us know the basis of your source whether personal opinion/experience or professional/organizational so we may do further inquiry also.

Our next blog will begin to list words, phrases and sentences that we can say to COMBAT bullying behavior when we believe we are being bullied. We will begin to list words, phrases and sentences that can be used to make us feel bullied: BLAMED, JUDGED OR DOMINATED!! Perception is reality.

Peaceful cooperation, coexistence and compromise can come only AFTER the bullying ends!

Until next time, live and not die.

First blog post

HELLO, WORLD!  This is a new website created by my Granddaughter, Keziah, for the purpose of ridding this world of bullies, bullying behavior and language. She and her grandma have been discussing the topic of bullies, their behavior and language since she was three years old. Waaaaaay too long without a plan to eradicate this phenomenon. So, we decided that a website was the way to get started. Our school and home families are  where we want to practice this way of peaceful living.

Finally, Grandma realized that she had been teaching tolerance in her high school English classes for 30 years and a subscriber of Teaching Tolerance magazine and its precipitating social movement. This involves paying close attention to cultural language and its grammar which is the manners of communication as well as the actions that the language instructs.

Next, was researching to see if there were any other organizations already created that address this horrible systemic habit of passive- aggressive and antagonistic behavior toward others at home and in society. We found several that  are dedicated to bullies but only one that goes well beneath the surface to the root causes of self discontent and  need which can erupt to the surface as violent behavior and violent language. The name of this international organization and its websites  with which we are now affiliated are Center for Nonviolent Communication, and nonviolent